Allow me to tell you something you already know: Life’s all about balance.
Some days you eat healthy and drink plenty of water.
Others you do a late night trip to maccas with your boyfriend singing “double..double dinner, double dinner, double dinner double dinner” to the tune of Game of Thrones and order steamed buns.
Some days you wake up early without an alarm feeling refreshed, actually do your laundry, hang shit on the clothesline (!) and then proceed to fold. and. put. it. all. away.
I know. It astounds me as well.
Other days you moan and groan, dragging your feet and proceed to tell anyone in a meter radius how you feel every god damn minute.
Seriously, if you could go an hour without saying how tired you are, you could achieve anything.
I recently wrote about Procrastination and how it can rule your life like some sort of negativity-fuelled overlord that feeds off untidy kitchens, full vacuum cleaner bags and your own self-loathing.
This time, I want to tell you how to grasp the rope of Productivity and get out of that sinking sand.
I would say once and for all, but lying isn’t my strong suit.
Don’t set the bar too high by jumping in the deep end.
Hun. You’re not Drake
and why would you want to be you can’t go from 0 to 100 real quick. Habits take time to change, so allow that for yourself. Start with making adjustments in your mental attitude and reward yourself for the progress you’re starting to make. Having good support from those around you is important. Sometimes people will raise their eyebrows at you for making changes. You need to have faith in yourself and only listen to those who want to bring you up.
Take note of when you’re doing things that make you feel good.
This is also known as being mindful.
A way that I’ve found to completely rewire my brain is at the end of every day, write down 3 things you are grateful for. It can be so simple. Sometimes mine are just being grateful that I have 2 eyes that work and all of my fingers and toes.
Then, at the end of every month, it’s a good time to reflect on how you’ve been feeling and acting. Making a conscious effort to do this means that you will be able to identify what you’d like to work on and more importantly, what you’re doing well at.
The more often you consciously do these two things, the easier it gets. You form a type of muscle memory in your brain and it becomes automatic. You will suddenly be so grateful and happy while also being able to recognise what you bring to the table life-wise which I have found to be so important for my self-worth.
Indulge (and then get back into it).
The more you deprive yourself, the more you will be drawn to the things you are avoiding. Get the duvet day out of the way and get back amongst it tomorrow.
If you don’t do it, don’t expect someone else to.
In other words, don’t put things off hoping that if you don’t do it, your partner/flatmate/mum will pick up the slack. No sugar-coating here (I’m on a diet) be harshly honest with yourself. There’s no such thing as “it’s not my turn to do the dishes”. You’ve literally just made that rule up so you can do fuck all.
Don’t do things for anyone other than yourself.
If you do things “for” someone with an expectation behind it, you’re not being kind you’re doing a weirdo business deal that the other person has no idea they’re part of.
And that’s really unfair.
Also, it increases the chance of resentment building and decreases the chance of you continuing to do the good things. Your motivation is coming from an external source which means you are putting that power in something other than you.
You will wonder why no one treats you the way you would treat them and essentially put yourself on a pedestal built from false pretences.
Find it within yourself. You will hold it and nothing can take it from you.
Obviously, things happen in life that will get you down and it can be so easy to absorb the vibes other people (and even events) emit. And when you’re feeling like shit, you won’t want to do anything!
Building that resilience is extremely important.
There’s that saying “an entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside of the ship”. Taking care of yourself is the equivalent to fixing any holes in your ship so the little things in life won’t get in and weigh you down.
Build yourself strong. When things are thrown at you, take your time to take care of yourself, feel what needs to be felt and keep doing the things that you know make you feel better. Don’t let those bad vibes come in too far and undo all of your good work.
I hope you have a productive and happy week!!
Keep being you